Traditions

While there are no established guidelines for what constitutes a baby shower, there are some traditional activities that are common at baby showers. Traditionally, the shower is given for the expected parent(s) by someone else as opposed to the parent(s). Usually, the mother's maid of honour or bridesmaids at her wedding hosts this final event into motherhood. There are favours, gifts, and games that are all coordinated by the host(s). Invitations are sent out, by the organizers, on behalf of the Mother/Parents, which is just like at a traditional bridal shower. Because the party centers on gift-giving, the baby shower is generally arranged by a close friend.

There is no set rule for when or where showers are to be held, and the party can thus be held at a variety of places and at various times. It is common for the host to provide baby-themed games during the shower.In some regions, it is common to give party favours, which are small gifts for the guests. Typically, newborn-related gifts are purchased for the new mother-to-be. Anything from diapers, bottles, rags, clothes and toys are acceptable and common gifts.

Baby showers, like bridal showers and bachelorette parties, are more open to new ideas, concepts, themes, games, and changes in etiquette. For instance, once it was unacceptable in America for guests to rub the expectant mother's abdomen. Beginning in the 1970s, however, if permitted by the mother and if asked politely, "tummy-rubbing" is now a baby shower event.[citation needed]

There is great variance in practices and themes of baby showers. Some people prefer to hold showers after the birth of the baby. In this case there may be a tendency for the baby shower to be less focused on the baby and more on the mother and the mother's preparation for the new baby. Some people believe that giving gifts before the baby is born can bring bad luck. Others believe that the concept of celebrating a coming child is a private family event or does not mandate a party at all.